My son starts Kindergarten in 6 weeks. I changed my mind and he is now going to attend a different school then originally planned. This quick turnaround decision had left me feeling disappointed and uneasy – until now.
As a single mom, I need the support of others. For someone as independent as I, it leaves a bad taste in my mouth – too often.
I planned on sending my son to the country school in the mountains where I live. I had dreams of moving my business up here and he and I becoming mountain people. Two weeks ago, life led me in a completely different direction. A string of events within a 48 hour period changed everything.
My friend came in to my workplace and offered to take him afterschool, should I decide to attend the one across the street from her on the outskirts of the town I work in. Then, that next morning, a client came in and told me she enrolled her kindergarten son in the same school. Later that day, my family friend came in who works on the campus and told me she could keep an eye on him during yard duty.
I thought I should check out the campus and walked in the office asking if they were taking new kindergarten transfer students. The principal heard me and beckoned me into his office and emphatically told me “yes! We are taking new kids!”. He proceeded to introduce himself. I was impressed. The mountain school has never returned my two phone calls and here I have a principal giving me information – not the secretary.
My friends tell me they love the education their kids are getting there, but to be honest it’s not about the education really – it’s about the support. The decision I made about changing schools left me feeling like I HAD to do it. I need a village to help me.
I voiced this to my mom while doing her hair. I told her I felt bummed about it, although I know Bear will do well there. It felt like I was letting another dream go. She sent me this
“… when one really does accept something for what it is, even if it seems very unpleasant, it frequently stops. If you have not truly accepted whatever it is, it will continue.”
“Work on acceptance. It may be that will lead to some challenge stopping. Whatever life throws at you – the best response is acceptance.”
Here is something for you to try. Whatever challenge is facing you as a single parent, accept the fact that it’s happening – try to quit fighting it, or being depressed about it. Accept it for what it is (not for what you imagine it to be) and then see if the negative energy subsides.